I had planned to do a straightforward recap of the Alt Summit, 2012. I’ve tried to sit down and write it all down for you, but I’m struggling. It isn’t because Alt wasn’t amazing (it was), or because I had a bad time (I had fun and learned a few things). I’m struggling because of some news that awaiting me upon my return. My last seven days have felt something like this: nervous, eager, reaffirmed, happy, delayed, scared, and finally, hopeful.
Tuesday: Nervous
The usual thoughts ran through my head. Did I pack the right things? Was my panel prepared? Would my family fare well while I’m gone? Could I get through all of the work I needed to do, before I had to leave?
Wednesday: Eager
I had prepared as much as I was able, and it was time to go. I was on the very first panel at the first Alt Summit in 2010, and I watched the summit via twitter last year, sad to be missing out but too pregnant to travel. I was excited about going back again, and looking forward to it. This was going to be fun!
Thursday: Reaffirmed
Alt came this year, for me, at the tail end of a lot of work. I’ve been doing more than ever, trying to juggle my blogging commitments with my family life, taking on too much at times, and having to put my head down and work. Being surrounded by my peers though, so many passionate, hard-working, and successful bloggers, reaffirmed that I’m heading in the right direction. I’m fortunate to have a job, unconventional as it is, doing something I love. I want to see Making it Lovely grow, and realize all of its potential.
Friday: Happy
Jordan, Kelly, me, and Maggie spoke about Growing a Readership. I’ve put together a recap of the Twitter conversations that happened throughout our panel, which was one of the most well-attended! My weepiest moment of the day came as Ben, the co-founder of Pinterest, gave a particularly inspiring keynote and received a standing ovation. His infographic feels especially relevant right now.
The entire conference was amazing; everything I’d hope it would be and more. Thank you to Gabby, Sarah, and Kate, and to all of the people who help make Alt the blogging event I most look forward to each year.
Saturday: Delayed
And homesick. De-icing the plane, flying against a strong headwind, and landing in an airport that was under construction all contributed to my plane landing two minutes after my connection left. I was placed on standby, with a confirmed seat on a plane for Monday afternoon. I spent the night in the hotel closest to the Pheonix airport.
Sunday: Scared
The next day, while other passengers lost their tempers and berated airline employees, I was able to get a confirmed seat on a plane home in the late morning (it’s always better to be nice). We were delayed though, and spent an hour sitting on the runway before takeoff due to weather conditions back home. We were finally given the OK to fly into Chicago, and I arrived home approximately 25 hours after first leaving the hotel in Salt Lake City. I then picked up the kids and immediately turned around to go to my mom’s house because we were supposed to be there for a birthday party.
All of that made for a very long day, but it wasn’t the reason I was scared.
Brandon lost his job. He had found out on Thursday, but he waited to tell me until I had finally arrived home with the kids late Sunday night, after we had put them to bed.
Monday: Hopeful
Our dream has been to reach the point at which Brandon could leave his job. While we had assumed it would be in a planned, responsible way, we will have to embrace our new circumstances.
Do we go all-in on the blog? I’m not making enough to solely support my family, but we have to look at the numbers and see if I could get it there. How long would it take if we were devoting all of our time and energy to it? (Six months? A year? Longer?) Should we do something a little crazy, like buy a store? It has never been a goal of ours, but if you’re one that believes things happen for a reason, the universe seems to be aligning in that way. Or does Brandon look for another steady, 9-5 job? He has been the rock that has made it possible for me to get to the point I’m at today. While the benefits and stability that come along with traditional employment are reassuring (especially with a family and a mortgage), I’d love for him to be as fulfilled in his work as I am. These are all things that will be weighing heavily on us, and we need to figure out our next direction.
I’m hopeful. But I’m still scared, too, to be honest.
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214 responses to “A New Direction”
You guys will def figure it out- go with your gut, plan and analyze & re plan & analyze. It will become clear. You’re far too talented not to make something that will be hugely successful.
& I meant to add I’m sorry you’re going thro this hard time.
I don’t usually post comments but I wanted to say that I hope it all works out for you and Brandon gets to have a job to love as much as you love yours!
wow. you will be better than ok. you will be amazing.
i know this for sure. when shawn lost his job i was terrified. ultimately it was the best thing that ever happened. to him and for us. really and truly.
I’m so sorry to hear this. I really think you could expand Making it Lovely so there is room for two of you. I know I would love even more posts, and if taking him on allows you to do that, I know I would visit more, so it stands to reason that your traffic would grow.
But I know it’s a big and scary decision. All the best to you both.
Thanks for sharing this with us. That’s got to be scary. Hang in there!
Just out of curiosity, what does Brandon do?
He was in printing (prepress).
I understand exactly how you feel as this happened to us a year ago, (my hubby is also our main breadwinner) and it’s a very, very scary place to be. But here we are – we still a roof over our heads and food in our bellies – and if you’re brave and smart you can turn it into an opportunity to shape your future how you want it. Good luck!
Like Lydia, I’m not a great commenter, but I just wanted to pile in as a generally silent reader and wish you both the very best for the future. I hope this is an opportunity for Brandon to carve himself a brilliant, enjoyable career.
What a rollercoaster! I share the sentiment of most others here – I’m sure this is a turning point for more happy in your life, no matter what you decide to do. Best wishes.
Like Lydia I don’t comment often but I have been a faithful daily reader for almost 4 years (eek! That feels long typing it!). My husband lost his job suddenly this year after we had labored over the decision for me to stay at home with our daughter. We felt very vulnerable, it was indeed scary. But it was also a time we embraced to grow in our marriage, to reground ourselves in our faith and to nurture friendships that sustained and encouraged us in that transition. I will keep you and Brandon and the kids in my thoughts and prayers. I know this is tough but I know you two will figure out what is best for your family.
I just wanted to pipe up and wish you guys luck. I’ve been out of a job for about 6 months, so I know how that goes. I hope that, whatever you decide, you end up going in a direction that takes you closer to where you want to be.
Last year, my sister Helen & I were in the same position. She got laid off and we needed to figure out if she should work in our online store full time, find another job, or whether we should throw caution to the winds, have me quit my job, & together open a store. We went for door #3 and it has been so rewarding. We sell stuffed animals so we are not saving the world, unless your child has lost his favorite Jellycat and then we’re pretty darn awesome! But we meet the greatest people and hear some amazing stories. And we get to work in a really happy place. It is very hard some months, but very much worth the sacrifices.
think of all the empty store fronts in our area, nicole!
my area in Chicago {nw side} is a ghosttown of retail.
i’ve been reading your blog since your early days {before I even knew what blog were!}. great things will come from you, and for you.
my best.
first, this summit sounds amazing, it’s been so interesting to read all of the recaps the last few days.
i’m so sorry to hear about brandon’s job. i just wanted to tell you that i know what it’s like. 6 years ago i decided to go back to grad school in a different city – both my husband and i left our comfortable jobs to move 300 miles away from our friends and families. i went to school full time, he was able to find a job soon after we arrived in stl. he lost that job 4 months later, on new years day. it was heartbreaking, and caused me to really question what i was doing. we struggled financially, for sure, but we made it through. 4 months later he found another job, that has lead to fantastic things for him. he’s never been happier. when i graduated, we stayed in stl because of him, and i was able to find a job in architecture, and keep in, which is not common these days. i truly believe that him losing that job has helped us both be more successful in the long run.
so long way of saying – i’m thinking of you, and i know it’s stressful. best of luck, and i hope that this just leads to good things for you both.
Your blog has been one of my favorites for a long time. Thank you for sharing so much and always putting positive energy out into the world! I know that good things will come for your family.
Been reading and swooning over your blog for years. It’s inspiring to watch your work and family grow. Here’s hoping your extreme industriousness and incredible energy get you and family where you want to be!
love your honesty. life has a way of throwing a wrench in your plans but i just know things are going to fall into place for you. i can’t wait to see if all come together and grow. thinking of you!
I’m chiming in to add another, “I know what you’re going through.” As a stay at home mom to two boys, my husband lost his job a little over 2 years ago. I was so very very scared. It took some time, but amazing opportunities unfolded before him and he’s ever so much happier and fulfilled. That lay-off was the best thing that could have happened for our family. I’m a very “everything happens for a reason” kind of gal, so your serindipitous turn of events can only be the universe telling you to jump and the net will appear. Stay strong and positive. Snuggle those babies and be thankful for all that you have. You’re going to be amazing!
I am so sorry for the anxiety and uncertainty that this is creating for your family. Perhaps this is a blessing in disguise and will help your husband land himself in a role that he is better suited for!
On the other side of things, I work for a company that helps transition people who have been layed off, readying them for today’s job market. I hear these stories every day and am brokenhearted by every one. But, after the fear and anxiety subside, the possibilities start entering their brains. So many people decide that NOW is the time to make that jump they’ve been dreaming of making. Time to start that new business, begin a consulting career, switch gears completely and try for something they LOVE this time. To hear the hopefulness in their voices is very inspiring.
You never know what tomorrow will bring so you should make the most of today. What does Brandon really *want* to do with his career? If you cannot take the giant leap financially, what are the small steps you can afford to make to help him realize that goal?
I’m so sorry about your husband losing his job. If you’re interested in buying a local store, Julia is looking for a buyer for Flybird on Lake Street, OP.
Yes, we heard about that.
Agree with Jamie above. Everything happens for a reason and this could be the catalyst for all kinds of positive changes! Thank you for sharing…and all the best to you and your family during this time.
I’m so sorry about your husband’s job! Good luck with whatever you decide. We’re all rooting for you!!
So sorry to read about your husband’s job. I understand the fear myself with two children of my own and a mortgage. But you’re taking the right approach. Sometimes things happen for a reason. I know that you can both figure it out and find the right path for you and your family.
when my daughter fell over the handle bars and was bleeding and panicked, she asked me why I wasn’t crying too. I told her that my job as mom is to be in control and to make sure I “take care of business”. It is scary, but everything in your head and heart tell you to be calm and get it done. Have a meeting. Make a plan as to what each of you are responsible for with the business. Give it 3 months (if it is unemployment benefits or severence) to work through your new business plan. He can still devote 1 hour a day to look for steady employment, freelance gigs, etc. You have plan A, B, C . . . You will be fine and you will grow. This is a great site with so much to offer, and I know it will be one of the leading blogs in the design industry. Good luck.
It’s hard to trust that everything will be okay when there are so many unknowns floating around…but best of luck to you! You’re a very talented woman, I bet you’re going to do well for yourself and your family :o) Excited to see what you come up with in the next few months, I love reading your blog.
I very rarely post, but I wanted to offer extra encouragement in this scary time like others here! I pray you and your family will find the direction needed to move forward. Everything will work out! Hugs!
I really don’t have anything smart to say other than I am 100 percent positive that whatever you put your energy into will be a wonderful success. Being scared is normal but you have a wonderful attitude about this little unexpected twist. All the best!
Hi Nicole-
I enjoy your blog and following everything you do. I am so sorry to hear about your husband’s job. I know first hand how it feels – mine lost his and has been
“in transition” for a while now. I started my blog as a way to cope and it has turned into a very positive thing for me. I very much understand how you want your husband to find work that he is as passionate about as you are with blogging. Try to stay positive, it will all work out – you are young and have your whole lives ahead of you. Once the initial shock wears off and you have some time to access everything you will find your way. With each passing day it does get better. Life may have a new rhythm for awhile, but know it is only temporary.
My best-Diane
My best- Diane
I believe that everything happens for a reason, and that for sure, the universe is trying to tell you something. You are such a creative person that I’m sure whatever you and Brandon choose to do will turn out great. There’s no harm in getting your feet wet, maybe trying something out for a few months, and if it doesn’t pan out, Brandon can get a “traditional” job. Maybe he should just start looking, because with this economy, it might take 6 months to get hired. During that time, you could focus on your dreams!
P.S-Listen to the song “Little Talks,” from Of Monsters and Men…(I just posted it on my blog – thisshack.blogspot.com.) It makes me happy, and I hope it does the same for you :)
I am so sorry — this is such a scary thing to have thrown at you, but I just have a feeling that you and Brandon will take this opportunity to do something big.
I don’t know what is the best thing for you to do right now, but I do know that all the work you’ve put in so far is going to pay off, no matter what you guys do. Just let me (us!) know how we can help you. XOXO
So sorry to read about your husband’s job loss. I went through a similar situation 2 years ago when 5 months pregnant with my son. It was a stressful situation, but it forced my husband to do what he really wanted to do which was start his own business. He is now more in control of the work he does and projects he takes, and has one full-time employee. It is still hard since he is trying to grow the business, but ultimately much better than working for someone else. I am sure it will all work out for your family; you are both smart, creative people.
Lots of us are out here making it work. Good luck to you!
Nicole,
Lots of love and hope from a portuguese reader who’s sure, absolutely sure, that everything will turn out alright!
;)
Best of luck to you and your husband, whatever you determine is best for your family and Making It Lovely.
This is a time for you to grown, and I know you will. I also know coming from a stranger, on the internet it might seem hollow. But. You will, and it will be magical when you look back on it. I know this b/c of your astounding personality, your drive and talent! I can only imagine that this will be a shooting off point to a better life for your whole family. Sending you calming vibes…
I’m so sorry. My husband lost his job of 13 years a week before christmas. Timing! Ahhhh! The first 72 hours blow chunks. Then once you get your mind wrapped around the situation, you never know what kind of opportunities you can persue. I have to say, I am surprised at how good I feel despite the circumstances and you will get there, too, I’m sure. I told him he should persue something he never thought would be possible, b/c now is the time. Most men would never take risks with their dreams if they are the breadwinner. But now he is “forced” to open himself up to things he may never have before.
Plus, now i found out we really LIKE each other! I’m not looking forward to the day that he’s not home w/ me so much!
This is your path.
I never knew my heart could go out in such a way to a stranger. But it does. (And really, you share your heart and your life with us, so really you’re not so much of a stranger at all.) I can’t imagine the full scope of what you’re going through. I will be praying for you guys.
i’ve always loved reading your blog, and really admire you for being SO creative, and SO artistic, but also so detail-oriented and thoughtful at the same time (i have a tendency to just do things without thinking about them for long). i’m sorry for your state of uneasiness, but i know you guys will come up with a perfect solution to it. thinking of you!
I’m so sorry to hear about your new state of uncertainty. But, after reading your blog for so many years, I feel confident that you and your family will take on this challenge with the same grace and style you bring to Making It Lovely! Best of luck to you.
Nicole,
I’ve been reading your blog since about 6 months before your daughter was born. You inspired me to start my own blog. I’ve seen how far you have come since then and I know that you and your family will be okay.
It is scary to suddenly lose a job like that. The same thing happened to my husband (before we were married). He came home looking deflated one day because he lost his job. He was sad for about 12 hours and the next day he got up, put on a t-shirt that said “I look for the prize in every box” and started looking for a new job. Within a few weeks he was interviewing and he ended up only being out of work for 6 weeks. I’m sure that whatever you and Brandon decide to do, you will be fine because you both have positive attitudes and like my husband you can “look for the prize in every box”
Best of luck to you in whatever you decide to do!
I’m sending you giant hugs. I have felt this burden and know how much anxiety it can create. You seem to have a great perspective and a few solid options for moving forward. That’s a good fortune right there.
Hugs again, and I can’t wait to see what’s next for you.
Thank you for sharing not just your design insight but also insight into your life and family. It is nice to know that a person I look up to still struggles with the realization/anticipation of the unknown. Your blog is a biweekly read for me, what I consider to be a success story of a designer/mom who appears to balance it all very well. God bless you and your family and good luck on your new and exciting adventure! Good things will come :)
Nicole, thanks for being so honest. It sounds scary, but I read a lot of hope and a bright future within the lines. Wishing you the best.
Everything happens for a reason! Being in the world of recruitment, it seems everyone is either losing their jobs or bouncing back from a job loss. Hang in there! What’s meant to be will find a way!
I’m so sorry to hear this stressful news. You will totally make this work. Best of luck and peace as you sort through your options and decide your path.
Hi. I am a new reader of your blog – found it via the Alt site. Sorry to hear about such difficult news. I had to leave my job a year ago – and wasn’t ready, but a year later I am happy, working hard, but fulfilled. We never know why these things happen, but sending lots of luck, stay strong and soon there will be a clear path…
x
Oh man. I’m so sorry for this shake up. But I’ve got confidence that if anyone can turn this into something amazing, it will be you guys. Good luck and happy thoughts to you!!!
Thank you so much for sharing. Whatever you do, we as your readers will support you 200%. If you open a shop, we’ll be there to check out the goods. If you take a new direction on the blog, we’ll be there to take it all in. We’ve got your back!
I think Brandon should become a MIL contributor. His pose with the cat in the Christmas card pretty much sealed the deal for me. :)
xoxo
Like J said above, I was going to add about Hulia and Flybird. I’m a longtime reader, never commenter and fellow Oak Parker. I am dying to buy Flybird myself, but it’s not in our cards right now. Good luck with this next phase.
I am so sorry he lost his job, I definitely think you’re the type of family that will always be able to make the best out of anything.
I say go with your gut. It’s beyond scary to live on one person’s paycheck, especially with a house payment. I think a store front would be an amazing idea. You have so many supporters that would LOVE to meet you *and* buy your creations. I think it would be a really cool new direction for you.
ahhh, so sorry that he lost his job and that leaving on his terms was not an option. I’m sure you’ll get through it and find a solution that works for your family. 9-5 doesn’t have to be a bad job, maybe he can find something fulfilling that is stable…but the stars are the limit, right? Crossing my fingers and wishing you and your family all the best, goo luck and the patience to find the best next step.
I am also one of those silent readers and I hope the best for you and your family. It’s these scary times that help us grow and become more strong and Creative and girl you are creative! So, much luck and blessings your way! P.S. My niece’s room was actually inspired by your daughter’s room!
Good luck. Job uncertainty/searching/stress is no fun. Hopefully you can help Brandon find a path that makes him happy and provides security.
Hi Nicole,
Your blog has always been one of my favorites. I have been reading your blog for years, and I have always wondered what Brandon(love his expressions in family pictures) does for a living. I am positive you and Brandon will land on your feet quickly. It seems lots of people are getting laid off and bouncing back quickly these days.
Things always work out for the best.
What a week full of emotions! I guess all you can do is take a deep breath and look at all your options and choose what ‘feels right’. Things do happen for a reason so perhaps you are on the verge of something perfect for you and yoru little family. :) Will be thinking of you guys and hoping for the best resolution and future.
I’m sorry to hear about the unexpected job loss. What a wonderful husband and friend you have in Brandon, waiting until you got home to share the news. My husband and I both experienced this same situation a couple of years ago and it’s been an amazing journey (sometimes bumpy) for the both of us to reprioritize what we want out of life and our careers. I look forward to hearing which direction Brandon (and you) choose. What ever you decide I know you guys will be fantastic and that your wishes and desires will all be realized and fulfilled.
Wishing you sunshine & cheer sprinkled with an abundance of success!
Bianca
I just wanted to say thank you for sharing. I know that sometimes we readers read these blogs and the author seems to have everything in order in their life. Your post made you very human to all your readers and I hope the best for you and your family. Unexpected bumps sometimes end up being a blessing and I truely hope that how this ends for you.
so sorry to hear about your husband losing his job! i have to say that was really thoughtful of him to wait until you returned from alt summit before telling you! i know it’s scary, but i think that when a door closes a window opens. i lost my job about a year ago and it really has been a blessing because it has opened up the space for to pursue something that i am more passionate about. i don’t really know you, but from what i can tell you will both figure it out and your life will get richer and stronger from the experience.
Aww. It’s OK to be scared. I have faith in you, though! Your work is amazing, and you are obviously dedicated to it. Best wishes to you and your family.
Nicole- I am so sorry to hear the news… its always scary when big decisions are taken out of your hands. BUT – you are so talented and you all seem like a very loving family so I know you guys will be ok. Which probably sounds hollow, but just wanted you to know that we believe in you! :)
PS- last year my husband and I went through the (frustrating) process of finding individual health insurance so please reach out if you’d like any help figuring it all out. We used an agent in Chicago who was sooo helpful & was no cost to us.
“..every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.”
I’m so sorry for this shake in your foundation. Things will shift and find new ground. Your talent and your husband’s talent are ready for the spotlight – go towards it.
Glad to hear you had an amazing time away and so sorry to hear about your hub’s job. We have been struggling with a tough work situation too. I stay at home with my little guy and a second is on the way. I blog my little heart out at two sites, have three Etsy shops and do alterations on the side. Still, it’s not doing anything but providing a little bit of fun money. My husband would love to leave his current job that has him, in his own words “working for the Devil”. ;o) He is talented and I know could score something good, very quickly, but the benefits piece has him terrified to leave. With the ebb and flow that goes on where he works we have braced ourselves three times already in 1.5 years for the inevitable lay-off, but so far he has remained employed. I know he is not long for this company and I pray all the time that our hard work will pay off. Sorry to ramble and enough about me. That was all just to say that I can relate to the “scared” part of what you are feeling.
I believe, though, that things do happen for a reason and this may be just what your Brandon needs to get to that “fulfilled” life. I wish you all the best- you are blessed with a creative mind and a strong work ethic. I have to believe that you found similar qualities in your mate- you will both be fine. Just have faith.
Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way!
Erika
I am so sorry about the bad news Nicole. As scary as it is, I think the universe gives us a kick in the butt sometimes, because we are meant to be doing something else, sometimes better, with our lives. Stay hopeful, everything will turn out just fine. Best to you and your family.
As someone wearing “The Golden Handcuffs” who can’t stand my job, but needs to do it to support my litle family, I hope you and Brandon take this scary time as an opportunity to find something that speaks to his soul. I am very sorry he lost his job and hope you can turn this into an amazing opportunity for you both. Best wishes!
I think the fact that you shared all your emotions on your blog shows how strong you really are. Most people won’t admit that they are scared.
I was laid off last year and I bounced back, but I am not where I want to be at this point in my life because I panicked and rushed into a “9-5” job. If you have a dream, don’t be scared, make it happen… don’t rush.
I’m hoping everything will work out for you and your lovely family!! Your blog is gorgeous and inspiring and I think that if you opened a store it would be very successful!
I am sorry to hear that the choice has been made for you versus a strategic move on your/Brandon’s part. We are hopeful as well… hoping that this move leads to tremendous opportunity. I’m sure it will. Hang in there, you guys!
I am so sorry for the stress and uncertainty this is bringing your family. I have no doubt that you two will end up doing something amazing.
WOW!
What a tumultuous week!
I hope this turns out to be the best thing that ever happened to your family!
First off, it was absolutely wonderful to meet you at Alt and chat about your awesome cuties and your rocking roller derby ways. And I’m sorry I didn’t get a chance to tell you how much I admire your business acumen as well as your brilliant design eye. And your heart and strength which is clearly apparent in all that you do.
My sweetie Eric lost his job last year and it is tough and I know there are some amazing opportunities as well as night terrors ahead of you, I know that you will land on your feet and be in an even more amazing place.
You rock!
xo,
– Dottie
Good Luck to you. I hope you can make the best of your season to grow!
Just by acknowledging that Brandon has been the rock that has made your success & happiness what it is today, leaves no doubt in me that whatever your next step is, you all will be just fine. Best wishes. Looking forward to your fantastic outcome!
It is hard to be part of the 8.5% of unemployed US citizens. (My husband too is unemployed and having to be go outside the 9 to 5 box to fill the void of work.) I would encourage you 2 to test to waters of creativety as a couple. If it does not work out, there is always the 9-5 gig that could be tapped into in the future. Best of Luck with your new path.
I’m so sorry to hear about Brandon losing his job. My husband and I both lost our jobs in ’09. It was scary, but we made it through (and, oddly, we’re both back at our old jobs, with some detours along the way). As smart and creative as you are, I know you’ll get through this and end up in a better place.
My husband lost his job three times (his field is just that unstable right now) and EVERY single time, his career grew by leaps and bounds. We’ve grown to appreciate the fear and uncertainty, it forces us to refocus, choose the most important strategy and go after it full-heartedly. You and your family will pleasantly surprise yourselves during this time. I have no doubt this is a blessing in disguise.
Nicole, I’m so sorry to hear about Brandon’s job, and can’t imagine how scary that must be. I know you’ll make it through, but I know you guys will make the right decision. Crossing my fingers for you – always here if you need me! xo
Hey. Thanks for being open with your readers. Hang in there. Such news can be a shock, especially a little while later. My husband lost his job twice in one year in 2009. It took me a while to recover emotionally from the repercussions (which were unusual). But we did recover and we’re in a much, much better place now. There is sunshine behind the cloud, I promise.
Love on your family and your husband and work hard to find that light. It will shine brighter before you know it.
I’m so sorry to hear about Brandon losing his job but the way you write about it makes me believe that, as a family, you will follow you hearts, be strong and make wonderful, creative things happen from a difficult situation. Being scared is natural but the wonderful thing is that you also have hope. Lots of luck in your new adventures. x
gosh, what a week you’ve had. i’m sorry to hear of the job loss news. it’s never an easy thing to deal with, but i’m sending thoughts your way as you and your family figure out what’s best for everyone. i so enjoyed meeting you at Alt and i’m grateful you were there to share your thoughts & insights. try to keep your chin up.
be encouraged! please. HUGS.
nicole, from sitting in on your panel at ALT, we all can tell that you are strong and you and your family will get through the scary part. this might be the little kick to take it to the next level. good luck – we’re all cheering you on!
Best of luck to you both. It’s a really difficult position to be in; I know. Hopefully it will all work out for the best :-)
What a hard and scary thing to come home to for you and to deal with while you were gone for Brandon. Whatever happens – you guys will be ok. You don’t have to avoid making mistakes, or having bad luck – you just need to be resilient. I only know your family through this blog, but you seem more than up to the challenge.
Nicole, so sorry to hear this…what a crazy couple of days. Thanks for being open and sharing this with us! I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers! My husband lost his job, but now he is working for himself and loves what he does more than ever! I hope that you and Brandon are able to do this too!
One good thing is that you have all of our support. :)
oh wow. I am sorry because that is a tough one. It feels uncomfortable and just awful. The uncertainty of it all.
This has happened to us recently over the past few years and it’s enough to just make you sick.
BUT, it turned out for the best.
AND I was (and am not) in any way close to even ever consider Me taking it all on. It would be fantastic, but it’s not even close.
SO, my point is, be proud that you can consider that.
Even if that’s not the route you end up taking. Pat yourself on the back.
And just keep breathing!
This is never easy, but it will be okay.
Good luck to you guys! Sending positive thoughts your way…
Hi Nicole: this is the first time I’ve commented on your blog, which I really love. :) So sorry to hear about Brandon losing his job. I’ve been there before, during the first bursting of the dot com bubble in SF in 2000. I’ve had quite a journey since then, I went back to school, finished my degree, went to grad school, and now I’m a wedding and portrait photographer. It’s tough, but you learn how strong you are. Sounds like the universe is trying to make things happen for you in a round about way. I know you both will coming shining though. :)
nicole – what an emotional week for you! lisa and i kept wishing you home as we sat delayed as well, knowing you had the little ones to get home to!
i hate to be cliché and say that things happen for a reason, but maybe they actually do. whatever happens and whatever you decide together, i believe in you and am here if you need to talk. i will be thinking the most positive of thoughts for you, brandon and your family. xoxo
Hang in there! I too believe everything happens for a reason… Change is scary, especially something like this. You’re lucky to have each other :)
Opportunity! Yet scary. Hopefully there’s a little bit of unemployment coming.
Do not slack off! Look into all options. If you need to, get a roomate. They can help pay for the mortgage. he can re-learn, try try try! Get a different job. I’ve heard of people with doctorates leaving info off their resumes just so they can cashier at Home Depot to pay the bills. It will happen…good stuff. Tighten your belt, and make a plan.
Congratulations! You are at the tipping point of great things. From personal experience, I suggest you do not open a store. It’s a creative killer and you have too much to offer. ;o)
I lost my job about a year ago. I was the bread winner of the family and supported my husband’s recording studio. The past year has been incredibly rough. There are no jobs in my field around me and there is a glut of new graduates with my same degree about to leave school. While I cannot say things are coming together (because they often feel like they are falling apart), I am exploring other options. Best of luck to you.
Nicole, thanks for being so honest and open about your life in this post. I have been guilty of the thought that bloggers like you have this happy, shiny life that I can never attain. I look at your beautiful house, beautiful children, unconventional but *lovely* career and think, “she’s so lucky.” Thanks for being honest and down-to-earth in these moments to remind us that you’re human, that you have your own struggles to attain stability for your family, too.
My husband and I have both struggled through our own employment challenges since we graduated from college and got married.
I hope and pray that Brandon finds fulfillment and stability in whatever employment situation he comes to next. I hope and pray that your family is able to ride out this phase of uncertainty with positivity and that good things come your way very quickly.
Wow, what a wonderful post. I often approach life in a very pre-planned way, but sometimes..things just happen. If I’ve learned anything along the way, it’s that, often, the stuff that scares us initially, and the unexpected directions that our life takes, can lead to the best kind of changes. So lovely to meet you at Alt and I say: go for it!
Something wonderful will happen! BTW, Fly Bird is for sale on Lake Street…
We know…
I’m both so happy that Alt went so well for you, and sorry your husband lost his job. I lost my job going on 3 years ago, and it turned out to be the best thing that could’ve ever happened to me. I was forced to dive in head-first to own business — that I had been pursuing on the side — and looking back, I wouldn’t change a thing.
Hoping this sudden change in life eventually brings GOOD things to you and your family. Thinking of you guys!
As scary as I imagine your situation is, I’m sure you’ll look back at this time as a pivotal moment. I don’t believe in fate, but I do believe in making the most of the cards dealt to you. The impression you give through your writing is one of a person with great ambition and capability. People who dream big and are willing to put in the hard work to get there will always do well. Whatever you and Brandon decide, I’m rooting for you. Go Team Lovely!
Thank you! That’s how I look at things as well.
And posts like that are exactly why I keep coming back to read your blog – such honesty and sincerity and a post that strikes a chord with probably all of your readers – that’s what makes a FANTASTIC blogger and the reason MIL is only going one place – UP – go buy some balloons and helium and hang on tight! It’s going to work out for you all.
what a tough situation to come home to, but what a loving husband to let you enjoy your time away without burdening you with the inevitable news. and, since it was an inevitable situation (brandon not having that job, not necessarily losing it before deciding to leave), i’m sure things will work out just fine. it’s just a leap of faith and you’ve gotta trust you’ll land on your feet. and we’ve all got faith in you and your lovely family. =)
I”m sorry about your husband losing his job! But I know you will find something new that works for you. I love your blog and know you could take it as big as you need it to be.
I too believe everything happens for a reason…although this has to be scary as hell with a family and mortgage. I’m rooting for you guys…good luck with everything!!
I have no idea how a blog makes money (I have a blog but do it for fun) so I can’t begin to understand how that part works, but just want to say, I love YOUR blog and you have taught me so much, linked me to many others, and I am in awe of all you young women (I’m 67)with your creativity and energy and fearlessness in ‘living’ in this blog design world!
If I were younger……………………….
but I’d really rather quilt, knit, embroider, weave…………you get the picture! ha
Lynn
My heart goes out to you both… It’s definitely a frightening time but ripe with opportunity. I remember feeling those emotions when I lost my job about 6 months after we bought our house and 6 months before we were getting married. Looking back I can say it was divine and God’s timing is so perfect. Now a struggling Realtor but I LOVE what I do and am so fulfilled. I hope you find what is best for your family at this crucial turning point.
<3 Jamie Lee
I’m never sure what to say in situations like this, but one thing I do know, Nicole, is that you are an incredible woman with immeasurable talent, and a whole ton of people just waiting to come out and support you. Know that we (your readers) are here for you and want to see you (and Brandon/your whole family) succeed! – and if we can help make that possible, we would love to.
Sending happy vibes your way.
Sorry to hear about Brandon. I wish you both strength, inspiration and clarity as you venture into weighing your options and making decisions. I am a huge fan of your blog, as well as many others :), and am sending you lots of positive energy! Good luck!
If you build it, they will come. Why not open “making it lovely,” the store? Feature fun stuff from your blog. You can also have an office in back that your interior design career can come out of. You have soooooo many followers that love you. I bet your family could help you get it off and running. Something to consider……. hummmmmm.
As a long time reader of your blog, I’ve watched it evolve and I know you (and Brandon, if this is what you decide) can take it anywhere — you’re so creative and you’ve got a strong and supportive fan base. Good luck!
It’s always something. If Brandon wants to join you in your business, I’m sure you could really expand the blog and ancillary services. But, someone should get a part time job like at Home Depot, or Starbucks so that you can get good health insurance. Don’t panic and start slowly. He can help you out while exploring your options. Looking forward to the results. Ann
You really should read the blog kaseybuick.com
her husband lost his job and they up and moved for one year to Hawaii.
No matter what you do, I’m sure everything will be A-ok.
I was at ALT and loved your panel.
Alison
Regardless of what you decide, I wish you luck. I love your blog and know you will be successful at whatever you put your mind and heart to, however scary it may be!
I’ve loved watching your blog and your family grow! So sorry to hear of this unexpected change, but you are SO creative and talented…I’m sure that you’ll find the perfect path!
Bummer, and best of luck to you guys. Were you thinking about a certain fun store in OP that’s currently up for sale? That could be very interesting…
The timing is auspicious, no?
Hey, go for it. I was tempted, but decided to focus on Bluebird Goods. I think you’d be great there. You can count on me for a decent percentage of sales! :)
Clearly meant to be (at least from a public pressure standpoint). Finn would be your beat officer :)
I’m sorry you guys have to go through this.
I’m so sorry to hear about Brandon’s job. If he is at all interested in it, I know Oak Park is in desperate need of a microbrew pub. I’m too chicken to do it but hoping that someone else isn’t!
Your seminar at Alt was lovely! I felt similar all week but I wanted to give you a little bit of support.
My husband lost his job our of no where almost a year ago. We are both designers but he always wanted to work at an agency and I always wanted to do my own thing. So he was the one giving me the ability to freelance, blog, and do what I wanted with his consistant income. When after being with the company for 6 months he became unhappy and began dreaming of beginning his own business with some friends. But had no solid plans of how or when.
When he and one of the guys dreaming beginning their company both were let go VERY unexpectantly we went through a time of complete terror. Being young neither of us had the funds to built up yet to support us both being freelance. I had a ton of work coming in but not what I thought we could live on solely. Losing consistency may be one of the hardest things.
This time of him losing his job drove us to both dig in our heels, figure out how to live on less and be content with less. We learned to enjoy simpler things and it made us get serious about life in the best way. Now a year and a half later his company has taken off in and he is about to become the bread winner in the next few months. As for me I was able to prove to myself that I could support us and if all else failed still we could run my business together. I was able to see my own potential and really find my passions amongst all the craziness.
Sometimes the most unexpected can be what drives you into a place where you have to find who new part of yourself you never knew existed. This is true for yourself and for your relationship. I love my husband more and value our relationship more than I day the “shit” hit the fan.
You guys are about to begin an amazing journey of struggle, growth, and learning to rely on each other and your relationship. I am 100% sure you will look back and know it was the best thing that could have ever happened.
Hope that all makes you feel hopeful and supported! It is hard but awesome all at the same time ;)
I’m so sorry to hear about Brandon’s job loss. Stupid @#$(@#* economy.
On the bright side …
Life changes like this are never easy, but each day is a new one and before you know it all this turmoil will be in the past. Sometimes a drastic turn of events is just the catalyst you need to do exactly what you want to do. I have my fingers crossed for you both. Make some lemonade!
I’m sorry to hear about the recent unexpected changes. I do believe that things in life happen for a reason though and this could be just the opportunity for something even better for your family! I can only imagine how scary it is right now though so I’ll be thinking happy, peaceful thoughts for you. And, if it is an OP store that you’re opening, expect me as one of your customers! :)
Sorry to hear your news, but we have found that things that seem disastrous at the time are often the push you need for a whole new phase. Wishing you all the best.
You have had quite the week!! So sorry Nicole:( Rachelle and I had the same experience coming home. They even lost my luggage and ruined Rachelles…ugggg. You and your fam are most definitely in my prayers. You are a strong strong woman!
He does print production, right? Tell him to email me. I might have a few leads.
I also have a gig open for digital production at our downtown offices. Madison & Wabash.
No worries! You guys will be fine. The design industry is chugging along pretty well and good people are hard to find.
:)
-Alana
Make a bad thing into a good thing. It works. Good luck and have fun!!!!!
Things will work out for the best, but here’s to hoping that happens sooner rather than later. Hang in there!!! You’re doing such a great job! :)
Also, thanks for sharing the news with us. I’m sure that wasn’t easy.
So sorry. I came home to the same news 4 months ago. It’s a crazy whirlwind of emotions and reevaluating for sure. I hope things settle and you’re both able to find your way. We’re still in this weird limbo mode.
Nicole, even in this difficult situation, never forget that you already have the most important thing in the whole world: a loving family and ever-supporting friends. Everybody is already rooting for you!!
English is not my first language so please forgive my lacking vocabulary. There is a song in spanish that says: “Saber que se puede, querer que se pueda/quitarse los miedos, sacarlos afuera/pintarse la cara color esperanza/
tentar al futuro con el corazón”
To know it’s possible, to want it to happen
to get rid of our fears, to expel them
to paint our faces with the colour of hope
to tempt the future with our hearts
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8_afpDSzQ1g&feature=related
My vote is no to the store.
If you took even half the money it would take for bricks and mortar store, and invested it in your site (and possibly 2nd site, maybe one Brandon could run with) you’d have the income AND a much more flexible lifestyle.
Dee :)
Yes, that’s something we have to consider.
Oh Nicole, my heart goes out to you. What a roller coaster of emotions. I was at your seminar at Alt and I am a believer that if you build it, it will come I (I may have borrowed this idea for a movie but I still believe it :) ) Keep on pushing forward building and designing the life you, Brandon and your family want. The stability will come.
Ooof… what a week. I don’t have any pearls of wisdom, but I hope that the force will be with you all. You seem to be resourceful, hardworking folk and I sincerely hope awesome developments are in your immediate future.
Best of luck!
I have so much faith in you that the scariest part of your story to me was reading about the dicey weather conditions that were so bad that they impeded safe travel. Darn that Mother Nature! I am excited for you–and I know that as you and Brandon figure this out and decide what to do and how to do it, that it will all be….lovely, in the end. Best of luck!
jbhat
Oh my goodness! What a whirlwind of emotions in such a short span of time. I’m so sorry about your new and hope you have peace and decisiveness by your side as you attempt to realign your life. I’ve been through something similar (but on my own), and it’s never easy – but it can also give you a direction you never had before.
Wow Nicole, what a lot of wonderful support you have surrounding you guys. It is so scary to go through this but you guys will figure it out. When i was 7 months pregnant Art quit his job to start his own company. Looking back it was a kinda crazy stupid thing to do, especially since we didn’t have much in savings. But really at the time it was the best move because things were going south and he probably would’ve been laid off eventually. Anyhow, 7 years later come February 7th, it was the best decision he could have ever made, as scary as it was. Sometimes we choose our course, and sometimes others choose it for us. Looks like someone is telling you it’s time to chase your dreams, no matter how scary that seems to be right now.
Nicole, best wishes as you all make big decisions! Things absolutely happen for a reason. I’m sure it will all work out. Just think, if you could grow a blog with Brandon’s support, what can you and Brandon choose to do together? God’s watching out for your family for sure. I can’t wait to see what comes of this all.
I’m so sorry to hear that has happened to you Nicole – with 2 little ones myself, I completely understand why you’re scared. I really hope things sort themselves out for you very soon, whatever you choose to do x
I appreciate the honesty and transparency of this post. We have been living “scared” for a couple of years now, and by scared I mean things are always up in the air financially and unknown BUT what I have come to realize is that it doesn’t have to be a negative feeling or something that sends your cortisol levels sky high. We have learned to live with it and by simplifying our life financially and limiting our time commitments we have settled in for the long haul. Now what was a scared/unknown feeling feels more like excited about the possibilities/unknown feeling.
I cannot wait to see what the future holds for you and your family…
I too, like others have voiced, am a firm believer that when one door shuts, another one opens. And it seems like you two will be successful at whatever life has in store for you!
Nicole, I’m so sorry to hear it, but I’m excited at new prospects for you guys.
What would Brandon’s role be on the site? Would you consider launching an online store? With far less overhead than a brick and mortar, it’s less of a risk, plus you capitalize on your online notoriety. I know it would be filled with lots of lovely things in pink.
Brandon’s good at video (both editing and shooting), so that’s an option if we come up with some great video content. If we bought a store, we would also have an online component, but it wouldn’t be a solely online shop.
DIY videos from you would be a huge hit! I look forward to seeing what the future holds for your family. You’re gonna do great. :-D
Sorry, I don’t comment often but wanted to let you know that I’ve followed your blog since you were just pregnant with E and are confident that you and B can turn this thing to your advantage. Hang in there!
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m a long time reader and want to send as much support your way as I can through the interwebs!
So sorry to hear about your current stressors. You have mega talents and will land on your feet. I agree w/ those who suggested an online store. More fiscally conservative. I would also suggest that you begin to take on clients and branch out into interior design. That seems to be among your many talents! Best of luck. I think there are wonderful things in store for you!
I’ve been reading all the amazing re-caps of Alt and hope to get there next year, but I just wanted to pop on and say that my word for the year (like I’ve ever had a word for the year before!) is “leap.” Holding you and your family in the light. Quakers often talk about something called a “way opening.” If you’re quiet and trust, the way will open. xo
With great risk comes great reward! I was laid off 5 years ago (when the economy was just getting horrible) and took a big risk. It definitely paid off! Good luck to you.
Sometimes these little pushes (although really hard) are just what you need to soar.You are a HARD WORKER and full of great ideas. This year will be filled with new things and sure you’ll have your tough moments but you’ll be able to connect yourself with your readers, your colleagues & GROW GROW GROW.
I have faith in you. 2012 is going to be your year.
Virtual hugs from your devoted Philly reader. Despite the scariness of the present, opportunities and adventures most definitely lie ahead. I’m rooting for you guys!!!
i’m so sorry to hear about Brandon losing his job. i know ya’ll are are strong couple & you’ll get through this. i know there’s a lot of great bloggers out there that you can talk with about what could come next.
Sorry to hear about the bad news…
You guys are smart and mega-talented, so I don’t worry about you landing on your feet :)
My husband lost his contract job 3 years ago due to budget cuts and the business I was working for closed in May.
It didn’t seem like it at the time, but both events have been the best things for our family in the long run.
My husband ended up with a permanent position the day before a hiring freeze and I am currently doing bookkeeping from home while enjoying the company of my kids while I look for a job. And keep up with your blog.
Everything happens for a reason….you may not know “why” right now, but you’ll get there. Your blog is amazing and genuine and I’ll continue to read your blog(s) throughout this journey.
Everything happens for a reason… I think the universe is telling you something. Listen carefully and follow your heart!
I have no advice– just a million positive thoughts that I am sending your way.
I am so sorry to hear that. I truly look forward to hearing more about what you guys decide!
I’m sorry to hear that,must be a very hetic day after such long trip& busy day. I too will be jobless end of Jan, and still thinking what’s my next direction. scared but hopefull is also what I feel right now. Hope Brandon can do something that he loves. Like most of the comments, I also believe everything happens for a reason, although I still pulling my hair out, asking what should I do next :p
Thanks, Lilis. I hope it all works out for you too.
I’m so sorry to hear that! I’m hopeful for you and am sure that whatever you decide to do it will be lovely and wonderful. Your blog is one of my favorites and I looking forward to continuing to follow you on whatever your new direction might be.
Your blog is my favorite and I am sorry for what you both must be going through now.
It’s funny–we’ve never met but I feel touched that you trusted me (your readers) with this news and I hope that we come through with support for this difficult time.
i’ve never really commented here, but that does not mean i’m not a huge fan of yours via your blog and twitter. reading today’s post broke my heart, yet it also resonated with exactly where we are in our lives too.
the only thing which continues to get us through every day is the belief in one another and our dreams. i truly believe everything happens for a reason despite how damn hard it feels at times.
keep looking forward, pursue your dreams, and try to enjoy the ride no matter how bumpy it might feel along the way. you are extremely talented, and you will continue to be a huge success.
I’m sorry to hear your news. I’ll be keeping your family in my thoughts and wishing you and your family the very best in this next chapter of your lives.
I love your site and am always so inspired by your creativity and amazing energy to take on new projects and challenges. I was so sad to read your post today but so thankful for your honesty and openness. You have demonstrated time and again that you are the queen of putting together and executing an inventive, courageous game plan. Here’s to another amazing (albeit unexpected) project – I’m sure you’ll find a beautiful solution.
Eek, that is scary for sure. Well, at least him leaving his job is something you guys were throwing around, so you have a skeleton of a plan sketched out in your minds. I think you would have a LOVELY store. Having a little store that I could mind every day with my dog in tow is a life dream of mine, but I have no idea where to start. If that’s the direction you head in, I will be taking notes!
I’m a new reader of your blog, and I love it! You inspire me! I’m sorry to hear the news about your husband’s job. I know first hand how hard it can be when your husband loses their job and things change. I encourage you to embrace each other and learn from this experience. It will be hard, but you two can get through this! And like a previous commenter said, just view it as another project to accomplish! I’m excited to see where your journey continues to take you. My prayers are with you are your family! Thank you so much for sharing with your readers this personal event :)
Oh Nicole! I actually went through this last year, at 7 months pregnant my husband lost his job…it was so tough. But, like anything, it always works out in the end. And if ANYONE can make the best of a bad situation, you can! I can’t wait to see where you take Making it Lovely…best blog ever!!!! xo
Nicole! I am so sorry to hear about your husband losing his job. I went through the same thing with my live-in boyfriend back in 2009 (we are now engaged). He was out of work for 9 months. Luckily, between my day job and his unemployment checks we were able to get by. After the initial shock, it was actually a great time of learning and exploration for both of us. We considered several different self-employment jobs, but in the end, he took a position within his industry at a small firm where he has been able to flourish. Always easier said than done, but really try to explore all sorts of options that you never would have before…you’ll both learn a lot about yourselves in this period. And something will eventually work out – it always does. Best of luck!!
Nicole, so sorry to hear about Brandon’s job. I have full confidence that you both will be able to pull through beautifully and be better for it.
You have such a beautiful family and an incredible amount of talent. There is a huge market for what you can do. I for one am the biggest fan and getting your blog posts are the highlight of my day (I am an MBA student now, so no too much inspiration of that sort in my day-to-day). I look forward to seeing your next chapter. I and many others are rooting for you!
Hi Nicole, I love your blog and have been reading for a couple of years:) Everything will be ok, I promise you! I absolutely promise you:) Like you said, things happen for a reason and I am super excited for you and your family’s future. Keep looking up…I will have you in my prayers..
So sorry for your bad news, I know how tough that is. It happened to us in last March when I was in the middle of chemo. Our talents lay in house flipping, we had done it in the past but were wary because of the economy. I got my realtors license, and we took the plunge. It has worked out very well for us. We sold our second house last week and have made close to the old salary this year. All in all our lives are better than they were. Being self employed is wonderful. The only kicker is health insurance- Cobra is frightfully expensive!
You are so talented, such a good eye. I think very good things lie ahead for you and your family!
So sorry to hear about Brandon losing his job, I hope you’re both able to turn it into a great opportunity!
So sorry to read about Brandon’s job. We’ve been through two layoffs in the past two years…and ended up in a much better place for both of us. (I even survived going back to work full time at a heinous job, which led to a good job.)
Perhaps the universe is telling you to buy Fly Bird??? It’s for sale, you know….
Things will work out fine! They always do :)
Liking that buy Fly Bird suggestion!
Sometimes bad news leads you to a place you never thought you would be and the changes that are being made now could be the most amazing and bold experiences you and your husband can make. Wishing you the best for your family – and can’t wait to see a store open :)
I’m so sorry to hear that Brandon lost his job :(
I know it must be a scary situation – but I can relate… I lost my job last March, and it forced me to try some different things for money. You’re the kind of person that inspires others, so I know your talent and creativity will pull you through! Best of luck and I hope whatever you decide to do works out for you.
I will be thinking of you and your family, but I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason. I say embrace the scary and go for what you both truly want out of your lives and for your family! Your blog will continue to be a success. I hear more and more people talking about it!
Wow – what a post! I’m sorry that Brandon lost his job :( I just took a huge paycut to work in a new position because I was miserable at my other job and couldn’t find a new one for TWO years! We are really afraid how we’ll make ends meet, but we have started to build an etsy shop so hopefully that will help out a little.
I know it will all work out for you, good luck in this new adventure!
First, you are right, it is always better to be nice! I think that’s how I nudged my way on the plane TO Alt (5 of us were bumped and one – the one who didn’t FREAK OUT – got back on).
Second, so sorry to hear about Brandon. I know how hard it must seem to HAVE to make this decision now rather than being able to make it over time. Do you work with an accountant or someone to help plan things out (sorry, I’m a CPA and this is always my first mental reaction to everything).
The CatMan has been unemployed for almost a year, and this week accepted a full-time position. The past year has been a rollercoaster, but we have come out the better for it. The main key is to keep communication open and express frustrations and concerns in a clear, non-judgemental way. You’ll be amazed at how your marriages grows stronger!
Good luck! I hope things go in a good direction and this turns out to be a positive experience. In the meantime, I’ll keep my fingers crossed for things to go well for you!
Nicole, first off, I’m so very happy we got the chance to meet in person at Alt. You are so endearing in person and humble too. Maybe I expected a rockstar persona to go along with your rockstar blog? Instead, I was so impressed by how down to earth and lovely you are.
Do you remember that conversation we had? When you talked about the possibility of Brandon working with you, the thing that struck me most was hopeful and excited you seemed about the possibility. It seemed like the right goal for you, your family. Did I tell you that I lost my job about 4 months ago? In that short time, things started falling in place – my new venture BlogPodium, the Style At Home article, TV appearances – and there is more to come. And when I told my friends and family about my job loss, NOT ONE of them was sorry for me. They all said it was great because now I could pursue my passions. They were right.
When I’m scared, I fall back on these thoughts: 1. Life is too short not to be doing something you love. And 2. I’m too smart to end up homeless. If I had to sell and move into a smaller house, or take a part time job in Home Depot in order to pursue my dreams, I could do that. All I need to be happy is my family around me and a reason to wake up each morning. I think the same about you – you are a smart lady and have the savviness and skills to really take this blog anywhere you want it to go. Maybe give yourselves a deadline? The option of looking for a job is always there if you change your mind.
Good luck to you & Brandon. I’ll be cheering you on.
That is very inspiring Jennifer!
Lovely words, Jen.
Wishing you and your family lots of luck and amazing new possibilities. xoxo.
What a wind out of your sails sort of event… life rarely happens according to plan.
Times are tough these days. Our family has been hit with a similar situation, too. I’ll say that consulting is a great way to fill the gaps, and requires next to zero capital and next to zero risk. It might be something to look into~
Who knows, this could be just the opportunity your family needs.
oh I can relate to this! 3 of the 4 men in my family are under-employed, leaving the women to hold down the jobs, as unconventional as they are.(I’m an opera singer, for crying out loud) Change is good, and I can’t help but feel that this might be the swift kick you did not think you needed to make some changes that deep down you wanted. I know you are scared…but ONWARD! you will be fine. xoxoxo
Good luck! You two are going to do amazing things together!
Scary… but just remember some of the best stuff in life starts out with scary! Praying it’ll all work out!
Rejection=Direction…. Smile and move toward your positive thoughts, they will show you the way through your temporary fog. Love your blog. Best wishes for your new exciting year. rc
I say go for it. The universe works in mysterious ways and maybe this just a little push to trust yourself. You have an amazing blog and I can’t wait to see what new things are happening for you!
I’ve never read your blog before. I got here via Design Crush’s review of AS… However I cried as I read it. I am so sorry that you are in such a terrifying place. I am sure I am tearful because I identify. I also am compelled to remind you to revisit the things that made you tearful about the Pinterest session. Whatever was speaking to you was perhaps preparing you!?!?!?! That graphic seems to be exactly where you guys are! And look at your blog – it’s beautiful! I would DEFINITELY shop at your store and I will look for ways to promote your blog to my little circle of influence. YOU CAN DO IT!
I’m sorry to hear your husband lost his job. When I lost mine, it was scary and depressing and nerve wracking but ultimately proved the catalyst I needed to make my dreams happen. I know you will crunch the numbers to see if it can work and all I can say is that you have to try if you can afford it. Give yourself a timeline and a deadline and go “balls out” (sorry if that offends)……..you will think back if it succeeds as a great experience but if it fails, you know you will have given it your all so no regrets!
I lost my job 7 years ago. A lay off came and my husband was in school at the time (he’d just gone back to school too). We were so scared but we gave ourselves a couple of weeks to sort through our emotions, and we even cashed in our airline miles and went on vacation the very next week. I really highly suggest giving yourself a little breathing room and enjoying each other’s company for a minute before making any hard decisions. Anyway, just so you know I started my own business and it’s like I couldn’t have planned for a better situation. My husband completed his education and we’re all the better for the entire experience. I know the same will happen for you.
Hi Nicole, i’ve never commented here but your blog has inspired me so much in so many aspects of my life. Thank you! I am sorry to hear what happened, but i am confident that you and your family will find a good solution. Your endless creativity and enthusiasm in life will lead you to only better future. Good Luck!
Wishing you so much luck. My husband and I are both stuck in jobs that we hate. It is so inspiring how you are turning this scary time into a beautiful opportunity. Here’s hoping you can both do what you love!
Nicole,
I’ve been reading your blog for a few years now and echo the comments before. Thank you for trusting us with this scaring, exciting and unexpected news. Sending all my good thoughts and vibes your way. Good luck with everything that is to come.
I’ve been reading your blog for quite a while. In fact, you were the first blog that I followed! It is one of my favorites! I wish you the best in this uncertain times!
I’m right there with you. My husband actually lost his job a few months before we got married three years ago, and we’ve made it work since then (he finally did get a part-time gig recently). It certainly teaches you what you can live without– and when you get back on sure footing, some of those things never make it back in the budget again. Which is okay. What it boils down to is that if you are supportive of each other in whatever direction you decide to take, you come out on the other side stronger.
I am so very sorry for what you & your family are going thru, Nicole. Your blog was one of the first I ever followed & you have always had kind words for me over the years. Just know that you have legions of supporters, readers, friends out here in the blogworld. Wherever you & Brandon decide to take MIL, we’ll be there right beside you!
i am hopeful for you and your family. maybe you speaking on growing your readership was the world’s funny way of preparing you for this next stage. i love your blog and i’m thinking of you!
Being brave is so hard when it comes down to being able to keep the lights on. I get myself into a panic and forget that no matter what I have family and friends who will always support me.
I’m about to take a big leap with my small business and I’m totally scared out of my mind. But I’ve gotten myself this far and I think I can do it. That is half the battle right?
Be brave and know you have the support of literally thousands of us!
What a range of emotions you went through last week Nicole. My heart goes out to you. A roller coaster of up and downs its hard to decipher the signs some times isnt it? As a long time reader I have to tell you what a JOY it was when you settled down into that turquoise chair next to me in the lounge at ALT. I was so happy to be able to tell you in person how much I have enjoyed your work. I love when the world gets a little smaller and allows me to make those connections.
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Im so sorry to hear about your husband losing his job. I know things will work out, stay strong and focused. It was really nice meeting you at Alt Summit. When I read your post, I felt your emotions. When it is all said and done, we are just human and we have our ups and downs. It’s ok to be happy, sad, nervous, etc. I have always felt that when you let your feelings show it makes you stronger. It’s like an energy pill. Just get it out of your system and move on. I will be thinking of you.
Oh wow. That is definitely one of my worst fears…you are (readership/reach/reputation/quality) where I would like our little site to be one day…and until then, my little venture is funded completely by my husband and his wonderful job. We don’t talk much about what could happen — could he lose his job, etc — but we should.
I wish you the very best of luck, and hope that you can figure out something that works for you, for him and for your whole family. I’ll be reading and hoping for you!
So sorry to hear about Brandon losing his job. I’ve been following your blog for about a year and love it. You are so inspiring, and the work that you do makes me hopeful that doing what you love is a possibility for everyone as long as we help each other get there. I’m curious to see how this next adventure unfolds for you. Good luck! We are all rooting for you guys!
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