Accessories for Aging Former Goth/Witchy Types


Hey, that’s me! I want these things! Perhaps you do too. And anyway, I’m just having some fun with the title. Let’s look at some pretty things for all of us.

First off, #1 on this list is clearly gray hair. Let those sparklies grow in! I realize I missed the whole silver sisters grow-out culture that has been taking place by not photographing myself constantly but here I am, fully dye-free. (That hasn’t happened since I was 13!) I’ve had just about every color, and this one’s my favorite.

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Next up, embrace those piercings! The 90s are back, and thankfully I put plenty of holes in my ears back then that are still able to be put to use. I have three lobe piercings in each ear, and one helix in my upper left. My thirties were my STATEMENT EARRINGS decade, but lately I’ve returned to an ear full of delicate studs and tiny hoops. Do I find myself wanting little earrings that look like eyeballs and lightning bolts and snakes and feeling it might be a little too gimmicky? Yes. Except for these Snake Huggies. They are beautiful and I still wish I had a pair.

These are the ones I’m wearing in the photo above:

Delicate Studs and Hoops Earrings in Gold and Faux Diamonds | Making it Lovely

Should I get another piercing? The faux conch is making me want a real one. I suppose I can just continue to wear it though.

Nail polish and rings? Oh yes. I’m hard on my hands, doing projects like scraping wallpaper or other things around the house, but my polish has been holding up. I have been enjoying all three colors that I recently bought from J. Hannah (Compost, which I told you about before, along with Fauna and Ghost Ranch). I also very badly want their onyx and mother of pearl Form Inlay Ring II in gold. It is perfect and I’ve not seen anything else quite like it. Also, I’ve been wearing this Double Groove Ring ring a lot lately, and I pair it with a few fun rings I have similar to this Gumball Pearl Ring and Atom Ring.

Nail Polish and Gold Rings | Making it Lovely
Blush Pink Lipstick

Pink lipstick. Suddenly I don’t have pale skin against dark hair! The complexion remains the same, but the gray has made my hair look so much lighter and the stark contrast (that I liked) is gone. I’ve been playing with makeup, and I look amazing in pink lipstick now. Cool pink though, brighter than the nudes and muddy roses that are so easily found. I’m wearing Blush Pink from Laura Mercier in the photo above, but I also love Givenchy’s Rose Boudoir.

Barrettes! I’m growing out bangs. This barrette looks like a baguette and that makes me smile. I’m very into all four colors of these Tortoiseshell Pearlized Barrettes and this swirly Jumbo Box Barrette. And then these Teardrop Barrettes look like cheap plastic blobs on their own, but like shiny precious stones in the hair. These all look like entirely too much when presented together like this, but I only ever wear one at a time, and I do wear one everyday.


There we go, some fashion frivolity on this first day of November.

I go through cycles in which I want very little and then I want everything new and all at once. I assume this is common? I would like some Mary Janes and a new pair of lace-up boots, cozy sweaters and midi dresses. And so many perfumes! (I will let myself have a little perfume. As a treat.)

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  • Amanda
    November 1, 2021 at 10:23 pm

    Thank you for giving a name to my exact vibe!!

  • Mudrick
    November 2, 2021 at 7:21 am

    Love this!

  • AnnaMc
    November 2, 2021 at 2:20 pm

    This post hit so hard!! I’m v much in this camp and love seeing that I’m not the only aging goth witch :) I’ve also noticed lately that I go through phases of not wanting much to being really excited about new things. Maybe it’s the changing season? Fall is my favorite, so it makes sense to me that this is the time that products get launched that I’m super in to.

  • Jocelyn White
    November 4, 2021 at 6:52 pm

    Love this too! I’ve been dye free two years this December and I love that I don’t have to spend 2-3 hours in the salon chair every 6 weeks, and that I dont have to spend $200+ every six weeks in a futile effort to meet society expectations that I don’t show signs of ageing lol.

    It is so freeing, and frankly the silver suits me ;)

  • Pam
    November 5, 2021 at 2:46 am

    After decades of coloring my hair I am now totally gray and I love it!! The freedom from coloring and touching up is awesome! And I have never gotten so many compliments! The silver really makes my blue eyes pop. A good hairdresser can help you make the transition easier.